I found this information online. It describes someone I know with frightening accuracy. Points 1,3,4,5 & 6 really hit the nail on the head. Approx 70% of people fitting this description are men and I wonder, do we all know someone like this?
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Narcissistic Personality - Diagnostic Criteria:
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
- has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
- is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
- requires excessive admiration
- has a sense of entitlement, ie, unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
- is interpersonally exploitative, ie, takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
- lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
- is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
- shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
- believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
A profile of a pompous, superficial, lying bully with inch-thick skin and unshakable belief in himself. Someone who has always been and who always will be, unto himself, the number 1 priority. It's reassuring for me to know that this kind of (abnormal, surely?) psychology has been defined and discussed. That it is a known - categorised - quantity.